Greetings to all, we are glad you are here and hope this finds you
well, and in good spirit. I would like to expound on our guest
writer’s article: "The Difference Between Advice and
Encouragement", in a way that you can begin to see it in action,
from a daily relationship, and how we all either create an
upside-down world, or a right-side-up world, based on the outcome of
our daily decisions, thoughts, actions (the big and little ones) and
what effect they have on our lives, and all those around us.
Many years back I began to imagine being married to a man who was
a good man, who would be the leader in the family and take good care
of me and his family; something I had not been able to experience in
this life at that time, but now realize, I was not a spiritually
feminine lady, at that time, and
that was why. I dreamed of
having a relationship where harmony worked to create a much more
peaceful and productive environment, than I was living in at the
time. I began by loving myself first, and, as the dream unfolded, I
starting to face the obstacles of my past actions and decisions of
allowing myself to be used, abused, becoming co-dependent,
independent, bossy, etcetera, that had been preventing me from
realizing my dream. By first taking an honest look at myself, and
what position in the game of life I had chosen, which helped to
created the chaos and disharmony in the first place, I faced my fears
of not being loved. Knowing this was no way to live, I made a tough
decision. Relying on this new knowing I set healthier boundaries,
changed body-language and welcomed the change, accepting that this
was right and that the dream would be fulfilled. Up until this point
in my life all that me, myself, and I, had accomplished was hurting
myself, others, and creating an "
upside-down world."
We have all heard the old saying, "
love makes the
world go 'round" (not sex), contrary to what we all
have been taught by today’s upside-down society;
sex
and
Love are not one in the same. Sex without love
makes you feel worthless, used and abused. Love points us to The
Ruler of The Universe, because He is LOVE. Acknowledging that He
created and successfully runs the entire Universe, we should be able
to trust Him to teach us how to become good and love one another.
Women, if you offer a Real Man sex before marriage he will see this
as a big turn off, instead of turn on, and will view you as
promiscuous and untrustworthy. If you dress for sex, exposing a lot
of skin, tight jeans and low neck tops, etcetera, then your
body-language will most likely attract a man who has one thing on his
mind, and it is not in either of your best interests. On the other
hand, when you become spiritually feminine you will dress demure and
feminine, learning how to attract the love of a real man, and enjoy
the essence of True love, which you will deserve and enjoy. The
wealth of becoming spiritually feminine is obtainable for all women.
It is priceless, and I encourage each of you to seek after this
special gift, if you don't already possess it, and are actively
practicing it every day. For the most part, our world turns
right-side-up, by me being humble and teachable, always asking for my
husband’s guidance, because ultimately he
Rules
over me and has the final decisions on everything. I have learned
that my husband is still learning how to be spiritually mature, and
makes mistakes too; this is a learning process for both of us. When
this happens it is my responsibility to support him in his growth,
and encourage him to correct his wrongs according to God's
Commandments, which will reflect his behavior back to him, making
this conflict between him and God alone. By doing what is right, we
ensure that God will be on our side, providing and protecting us
through our husbands, as promised. By acting non-manipulative and
submissive you will take yourself out of the conflict, helping him
more than if you argue about who is right or wrong, or try to
convince a man with Satan’s advice, like Eve did to Adam, which
only leads to
discord in the relationship.
Hopefully, you are now beginning to "see" that by acting
spiritually feminine, you have a far greater effect on the
relationship. If we want to live a joyful, healthy life, it is
important to put God first and foremost in all aspects of our lives,
by following His perfect Laws. By doing so, you fall under His
promised blessings, where He will never let you down and you will
never feel alone. You will always receive His unconditional LOVE,
when and IF you are ready to receive it. As we ALL have been told,
"Father knows best", so it seems that The
10+2
Command-ments are a perfect guide, that
everyone should follow when making decisions, and taking action, on a
daily basis. The word
Command-ments means commanded
to obey, and they were given to us with our best interest in mind.
A mutual friend, who introduced my husband and I, had been trying
for a while to get me to agree to meet him, so she shared many things
about him, like his talents and pictures of him, but the one thing
that really sparked my interest, because I was not interested in
his looks and another bad relationship, was the fact he did not work
on the Sabbaths (Saturday) for money. She said he would help people
out on that day, if need be, but never charge for it. This made my
decision to allow her to give him my number. He later shared with me,
that prior to us meeting, while on vacation, he had cried out to God
at the top of the mountain, accepting the fact that God had not
placed the right woman in his life, accepting instead the solitary
life he had been living with God, which he had done for over seven
years. When he returned he saw her message, and he waited a while, to
be sure he was supposed to call me. After nearly a week, he called
me, and that's when I asked him about his relationship with Christ.
Based on his answer, I had some trust in him, before actually meeting
in person, publicly, and was now looking for his actions to line up
with his words. He invited me to meet him for dinner one Sunday
evening. Before ordering I mentioned I might have a beer, which I
didn't, because the thought of finding a man who truly wanted to
serve God was important to me, and I did not want to run him off. He
kindly replied with compassion in his voice, "Is that what you
think you need to be doing with your life?" Although I had drunk
alcohol almost every day, up until I met him, that evening was when I
stopped drinking. I have never had another drink since, and now I see
how I was testing him, to see if he was for real, and he sure was. He
suggested we study together on The Sabbaths, which I enjoyed, because
he read
God's
Holy Word to me, and that is when my desires
for alcohol, materialism, sex, vanity, money, power, etcetera began
to diminish, and for the first time I felt satisfied inside. The
truth is alcohol dissolves our inhibitions to abstain from sinful
behaviors. Prior to meeting him, I did not want to drink, but had not
been able to stop, even though I had attended church and 12 step
meetings.
As the relationship grew, I could see his words lined up with his
actions, as he stood firm in his beliefs. He exercised his manhood
establishing healthy boundaries for our relationship. One of the
greatest demonstration of his love and respect for our Creator,
himself and me was when he informed me of his wishes for us to stay
out of bed, insisting on saying our marriage vows to God and each
other first, and then consummating our marriage on the honeymoon,
thereby obeying the First Commandment to Love God first. I agreed,
knowing this would take great self-control on both our parts, and we
both faithfully kept our word to God and each other. As a result, he
surprised me with a white rose, dipped in gold, on our honeymoon
night, as a gift/symbol celebrating our purity together. Another way
he did not over-step his boundaries with me, was when he knelt down
to ask if he could kiss me for the first time, which touched my heart
deeply and proved he was a gentleman. I liked this way of creating
our world/thinking and felt the true love, that his actions were
proving between us. With his masculine love and good examples, I now
had hope, a sense of security, which made me feel loved and
cherished, as our love grew stronger. Have you ever heard this
saying? “
YOU are your own worst enemy.” That is the Truth,
and until we face these facts our egos will defeat us every time,
keeping us from attracting and falling in love with a real man.
Learn to take action, change behaviours and set boundaries, so
this kind of man will seek you out, and then you will be able to
learn that your greatest power lies in your willingness to be guided
by a real man. I faced-down my ego and learned to look to him for
everything, especially strength and courage to continue to follow
him, and this new way of learning to love each other, that he was
teaching me.
When we first started dating, he had been working on a single
woman's residential home for quite a while, and he told me he needed
to get finished with it, and move on to others. So he asked me to
help him with the work one day, which set the foundation for him to
train me to be his help-meet. It was during this time that he would
repeat a saying that I did not fully understand, but was willing to
learn. He kept repeating it, sometimes on a daily basis,
"familiarity
breeds contempt". At the time I was learning how to
recognize my feelings and behaviors more, with a sober mind now, a
gut feeling if you will, a knowing, and trusting in this guidance.
The more he would say this quote, the more I understood and put it
into action, being careful to keep our healthy boundaries each day,
striving to always be courteous, greeting each other with a kiss and
a hug, being polite, putting the needs of others first, before my
self, and learning when conflict came, to still do the same.
Through these acts of selflessness the love continued to grow, and
I began to understand how to let him lovingly guide me, as our hours
turned into days. The time flew by and my world started turning
right-side-up. At the time we met, I had also been attending
organized religion for years, but when I ask my new best friend to go
with me, he said he could not do that, knowing the truth about those
organizations, stating, instead, that Christ's sacrifice on the cross
had abolished the priesthood, for all , for all time. He also taught me that Christ is the ONLY teacher we
need, and that He warned us about the “Traditions of The
Fathers/Elders”, and about not attending the Synagogues (the churches of
that day). Then gave me a clear concise answer from the Scriptures for
his decision, and all this Truth came together and made perfect sense,
as only the Truth does, as to why I was not getting my spiritual needs
met in these places. It was at this point in my life that I vowed to
stop attending these organizations.
By this time we were not only best friends, but we had fallen in love
with each other, spending time together when not working, which led to
him asking me to marry him, and without hesitation, I knew I was in true
love with him, and convinced he was my soul-mate. So I said, “Yes”. He
made the announcement formal, after getting the approval from my dad and
his mom, followed by an engagement-ring surprise at The Grace Ranch
(our future home together), and a special just the two of us dinner. We
then agreed on a date and decided our marriage vows were very important
to us, and agreed we wanted to be married by a pastor who would marry us
under
God’s Royal Laws of Liberty, not the state’s
licensing, as it used to be, since the establishment of this country.
Keeping an open mind, he said it made sense to first ask the pastor
where I had attended church. This pastor would not make an appointment
for us, because we were not taking their marriage counseling, which
confirmed to me, my new fiancé’s earlier words of truth about organized
religion, and how it contravenes the actual Word in Scripture. This
encouraged me to cancel my membership, by written notice, in an email
full of Truth, to the pastor, about him and his 501c3 corporate
business. I’ve not looked back, knowing all these decisions have been
good for us both. Have you ever heard that the Truth mixed with lies is
still a lie, even if the majority believes it, however the Truth is
still the Truth, even if no one chooses to believe Him.
Shortly after the honeymoon, my new husband shared more about how his
life had transformed, by a discovery and encounter he had with The
Truth, which turned his world right-side-up, and helped form him into
this real man which I now love so much. He showed me a “little book”
titled,
The Way home or face The Fire by JAH and shared how it made a massive impact on his life, which prompted me to read it also. What an enormous gift of
LOVE and
Truth this “little book” revealed to me. I had no idea that I was reading the
Most Extraordinary book
on the planet. Never had I heard so much Truth that was easy to read,
understand and digest. I was overwhelmed and amazed, by all the answers
to the questions I had had about my life, and the
long awaited Truth of all things on Planet Earth;
for a while it left me overwhelmed by this Love I was experiencing. It
is now one of my favorite books, which I still read quite often, because
I’ve discovered, that when you effectively apply the contents to your
life, they start to turn your world right-side-up, as they have ours.
This is something I freely share with other’s Beings as it has been
proven to be
THE KEY that unlocks the
Scriptures, and has helped me immensely in my life, by correcting my way
of thinking, concerning me and the upside-down world revolving around
me every day.
Have you ever been told it’s not what you say that matters, but how
you say it. Contrary to that; what you say does matter, which became
apparent to me, as I was making amends for my wrongs against my husband,
after being corrected by him. He was patient and kind most of the time
with his authority, until I would try to emasculate his manhood. Then he
would react with loving force to defend his authority. This would
happen when I would try to give him advice (society’s influence of
liberating women to be man’s equal, coming from Satan), which I didn’t
realize, at the time, destroys the masculine instincts in a man to
protect and provide, normally bringing out instead a man’s animal
instincts, causing discord in the relationship. Instinctively, he would
enforce his strong leadership boundaries against this advice, in defense
of his spiritual masculinity. It seemed, at the time, that he was being
too hard on me, but, looking back, now I am glad he was, and realize it
was with loving force and for good reasons. So ladies, if you desire
the love of a real man in your life, instead of domestic strife and
violence, then it is your husband that you should be obeying, thereby
obeying Christ and God first, through him. I would apologize sincerely,
and express to him my determination to change that bad behavior, thus
proving it is important what you say. My newly learned behaviors worked
like magic, and I encourage all women to give them a try, when you are
ready to learn
How to Attract a Real Man.
Acknowledging his leadership, I would ask my husband what to do with
possessions I no longer needed. He would give me logical choices and
encouragement, with which to make a good decision, allowing my input
first, and then I depended on him to make the final decisions, knowing
the man should
Rule Over The Woman, and her desires shall be subject to her husband.
Men are better equipped to deal with stress than women, due to the
fact the man was created in God’s image first, then woman was made out
of the man’s rib, making her the weaker vessel. Good news is: if you
start to make changes where you can, in your behaviors, then there is a
better chance that a real man will seek you out and marry and protect
you, so you can start learning and practicing these new behaviors and
beliefs, with him. The Truth is my experience with this kind of
LOVE is far better, and more satisfying, than any sex I have ever experienced in this lifetime.
On one occasion he showed me a visual teaching-example that helped me
so much, that I want to share it with each of you, hoping you will
remember it each time you look at your hand. He called it
Divine Authority,
a lesson I now realize was essential for me to learn, in order for love
to guide our relationship. He demonstrated this by holding his hand
thumb up, he said, “the thumb represents God (
The Ruler of The Universe), the index finger represents Christ (pointing
The Way),
the middle one is the man (real man), the ring/marriage finger is the
woman/help-meet, and the pinky finger representing Satan. When the man
and woman are obeying the correct order of divine authority, their world
is right-side-up, resulting in harmony, love and peace in marriage. Now
turn your hand/world upside-down. When the woman gives advice to the
man, instead of encouragement, Satan (which means The Opposer) is now on
top influencing and controlling the woman. When the man listens to the
woman’s advice, instead of Christ and God, like Adam did, and follows
the woman, it causes him to relinquish his spiritual authority to the
woman, thereby really to Satan, who is influencing and controlling the
woman through her emotions, causing curses in the relationship, for
being disobedient to God and Christ. Please notice God and Christ (
real love)
are now on the bottom and their spiritual blessing are left completely
out in marriage.” This is the same scenario that resulted in Adam and
Eve being expelled from The Garden of Eden, and is happening every day,
to everyone, everywhere around the world.
Will we ever learn? Taking an honest look at the mess this planet is
in, it is obvious we have not followed God’s guidance and Way,
explaining why the world today is operating upside-down, full of all
kinds of evil and corruption, which makes Father/God sad to see, because
He LOVES each of us and is patiently waiting for you to
ASK Him for His help.
The only way to correct the situation in the world, is for each of us to right the
Divine Authority in our lives and relationships, starting with turning our thumbs up in our own lives, pointing to The Way to “
How to Attract a Real Man”
and become a spiritually feminine lady, thereby wearing his ring and
taking his name, to become one flesh and his true help-meet, as it was
meant to be, coming under the real man’s guidance, relinquishing
society’s satanic teaching of women being men’s equal, and coming under
God’s blessings. A great teaching about marriage can be found in “
This is a Great Mystery: Marriage Guidance”
by D.P. Grafton, Edited: Corrected and Supplemented by JAH. We highly
recommend you read this and all the other links found here, for your own
sake. Once the divine order is corrected, the man and woman begin to
realize the divine blessings that
Only God and Christ
can bestow, creating harmony and love that flows freely. In my own
experience this has become apparent over and over again, as we learn to
follow God’s grace/serendipity in our daily lives.
God gave us the answers to our relationship difficulties, as we were
in a major crisis up until the end of this year, helping us to resolve
the issues and restore the harmony in our own relationship. As I look
back on my life, I realize everything I have had to deal with has helped
prepare me for these opportunities today, which are guiding and
encouraging women to learn Women’s True Liberation
. Our
lives have been transformed so much for the better, due to all these
changes. It is good to know God is always here, ready to guide, teach
and lend that helping hand, when we trust and OBEY Him. He is our JOY
and exceeding great reward.
In Closing: May we strongly suggest you choose wisely what you
follow, knowing everyone has their own free-will to choose their path in
life. Hopefully you will become like a pebble that is dropped in water,
making an endless wave of love, acknowledging your spiritual life
depends on it. We both believe these Truths come from Christ, our
spiritual leader and guide, and His Word found in the Old Testament, New
Testament and Holy Koran, found for
Free reading in the
King of kings’ Bible by JAH, and is the bedrock of our relationship. We also hope you will take the time to read and digest Lynn Paris’ book,
How to Attract a Real Man,
which helped us both, to learn how to create more love and boundaries
in our relationship, accomplishing more balance, harmony and joy in our
lives
. Finally we hope you will turn your world
right-side-up, if you have not already done so, by first establishing
your relationship with God and Christ, as your authorities in all
things, becoming spiritually feminine, or men spiritually masculine,
relying on God and Christ
Only, to provide all of your spiritual and material needs.
May God bless all your relationships.
Love and Laugh,
Catherine
